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Tuesday, January 19, 2010

who is your true friend?

as-salaam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Love is like the wild-rose briar;
Friendship is like the holly-tree.
The holly is dark when the rose briar blooms,
But which will bloom most constantly?
~Emily Brontë

I just read a blog post and am pretty upset by it. I am upset by the fact that a blogger is revealing some intimate details about someone who she called her own friend all along.--revealing things that will damage her reputation.

rather than the contents of the post, which may or may not be true,it is the fact that it is someone calling themself a friend who has done this that bothers me most. I feel sorry for the affected sister because she thought her best friend had her back.

even if the things said are true, she has revealed the sins of her own sister to the world. This is against Islam. It isn't the worlds' business to know about.

This sister who knows the so-called friend's secrets would never stoop to the level that her so-called friend has. She has at least that much integrity in her.

True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare. False friends are like leaves, found everywhere. --Unkown

a true friend would never do that. never. but obviously she wasn't a true friend.

My true friends are right there with me through thick and thin. They are there to laugh with, to cry with, and for those times I am down, they are shoulders I can lean on, and they try to uplift my spirits with their words.

"A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself"--Frances Ward Weller

My true friends are there to set me straight when I am wrong. My true friends and I maybe disagree on certain issues from time to time--but we can calmly disagree and agree to disagree and stay friends even though we may disagree.

My true friends forgive me when I make mistakes, help dust myself off so I can try again, and keep loving me when I make mistakes... big or small.

You can always tell a real friend; when you've made a fool of yourself, he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job.”-- Laurence Sterne

My true friends will never ever publicize the inner worst they know about me for the whole world to see. We all fall off the bandwagon from time to time and some falls are worse than others, but we can discuss the issues with each other and keep the issues to ourselves, whether it be an issue between just one friend and I or, within the small group of treasured friends.

Distance may come between you and a friend from time to time--life happens. But in the end you will still hold a special place in your heart for that friend, because true friends are a treasure to keep for life.

To have a good friend is one of the highest delights in life; to be a good friend is one of the noblest and most difficult undertakings.--Unknown

--edited to remove names...


  1. Good post sis! This should teach each and every one of us... AstagferAllah! :( No one should have to go through this!!!! makes me angry as hell!

  2. OMG i dont know what to say wallah -- Toshiko thank u so much -- your post and "TExanInUae" means a lot because I both know the two of you IRL.

    wow... i really dont know what to say!!!

  3. MashaAllah! Excellent post...

    It is very sad when things come to this...InshaAllah nothing like this happens to any of us and Inshaallah we remain strong together as sisters in Islam first and foremost and everyone remain true to one-another...I love you guys so much!

    "Many friends will come and go... but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart"

  4. MashaAllah another nice post but a sad situation.